I know it’s only the second week of the New Year but I’ve already had a “What the hell am I doing with my life” moment*.
I feel like if January was a person their main trait would be judgemental – Judgemental Jan is what people would call her. But, January isn’t a judgemental bitch called Jan so why do I feel like I am under immense pressure to sort my shit out!?
I can’t be the only person on this planet to feel like this? I understand that it is easy for people to start making much needed changes in their lives at the beginning of a new year. (if I see #NewYearNewMe one more time I will cry) You reflect on the previous year and evaluate who you are as a person. You decide that you can improve in some areas and therefore make resolutions or goals. But then what? See, its harder than you think.
So instead of bursting into tears and curling up into a ball on the floor, I have decided to come up with a totally foolproof way of making “resolutions” or “goals” and ACTUALLY sticking to them. You may even see some results! So no need to worry about Judgemental Jan standing over you pointing and laughing because you failed already and it’s only the second week of January.
STEP 1: Choose an achievable goal
Let’s be real. Don’t set yourself up to fail when you haven’t even started yet. Choose a goal that you WILL be able to achieve. Being specific also helps here – for example, instead of saying “I want to lose weight” say “I want to lose 1 stone”. You could break the goal down even further, for example “I want to lose 1lb every week until I lose 1 stone”. There it is, that’s your goal. It’s small, but it’s a start. Now how do you achieve it?
STEP 2: Break it down into actions
This is basically an action plan – what are you going to do to achieve your goal. For example, “do a workout from YouTube for 30 minutes on Monday, Wednesday and Friday” or “cook a healthy meal from scratch on Monday, Wednesday and Friday”. Don’t make the actions difficult or complicated otherwise they’re not going to work. Simplicity is key here. When you see yourself accomplishing the tasks in the action plan you can step it up a notch and make it a little more challenging. For example “do a workout from YouTube every week day”. This progression is good as it mixes things up but don’t feel under pressure to change things if they are working for you.
STEP 3: Keep track of your progress (optional but advised)
You should write down your goals and action plans so you can keep track of your progress. This in itself will be a reward as you will see results right in front of you which will give you lovely feelings on your insides. It will also motivate you to keep going if you have an “I can’t do this anymore day” as you’ll be able to see how far you’ve come already. You could set this up in a simple chart or in a diary. When you have accomplished your goal you will be able to look back at your achievement and feel proud.
Here is a very quick and simple plan I made to show how easy it is. The chart can be very motivating as you can colour in or check off each level as you achieve it.
Now what? It’s time to start thinking of your goals and how you will achieve them. I know this is all very simple but it made sense to start small and work your way up rather than diving head first into the deep end with only one floaty on when you can’t swim.
There are lots of things I want to achieve this year like saving money, focusing on my mental health, going on a holiday, getting fitter, eating healthier, creating more content and the most important – being happy!
It looks like I’ve my work cut out for me so I better get planning.
Let me know if you decide to try out this plan and how it goes.
*a few tears may have been shed